What is the ideal relationship? I am beginning to think that I have not known what it is. The older I get the more I realize that I know very little and have been going about life all wrong, but today I was thinking about relationships.
I seem to have the notion that my happiness in my relationship is tied to activities I do with my spouse and that my success is determined by the fun my spouse is having. Well, if I perceive that she is having fun. If I do not perceive that she is having fun then I get annoyed, upset, sad, depressed etc.
However, as I sit waiting for her to awake I have been thinking about mine and her happiness. I have been awake for four hours, but I have not started my day because of my hold up that my time and happiness is tied to her. My understanding is changing about relationships. I could have, should have started my day already and she can start hers when she likes. Instead of being salty, sitting here waiting to start my day when she gets up, I could have been moving and shaking.
Relationships will be more successful if you can find your own joy and allow your spouse to find theirs, then enjoy the moments that you share together.
Now to find my joy and let my wife find hers, separate, but together. Whatever it means for us individually. Ah, now I feel a little peace of mind as I work my way through life, love, and adventure. I can now start my day. Take it easy!
